These cases are perfectly simple and easy to distinguish. In a free hour, when our power of choice is untrammelled and when nothing prevents our being able to do what we like best, every pleasure is to be welcomed and every pain avoided. But in certain circumstances and owing to the claims of duty or the obligations of business it will frequently occur that pleasures have to be repudiated and annoyances accepted. The wise man therefore always holds in these matters to this principle of selection: he rejects pleasures to secure other greater pleasures, or else he endures pains to avoid worse pains.
Over the past two decades, British GQ has benefitted from great advice from some of the world’s most influential people. Few, however, have looked as good as Miranda Kerr, pictured above at the launch of the new Victoria’s Secret fragrance Heavenly Flowers. When Miranda last spoke to GQ, she gave us a selection of tips that have stuck with us ever since…
GQ: I spot you in a bar, how should I style my approach?
Miranda Kerr: Simply smile, come over and say hello. Nothing fancy and definitely no cheesy pick-up lines. There is nothing more attractive than a man who carries himself well, is confident but at the same time humble and open. If you really want to impress a woman you have to be brave enough to be yourself.
We’ve done the small talk, shared a banquette, danced a little; now you’re leaving with your friends. Too soon to ask for your number?
Life is too short so it’s never too soon to ask. Even if you get the number, it’s best not to assume anything. I am a big believer that friendship comes first. Women have a sixth sense and can tell when a man wants one thing. You’ll have more luck with a woman if you are there for them – no strings attached.
Our first drink went well. How should I let you know I’m thinking of you? Is a text the next morning too soon?
Text away! It only makes a woman feel appreciated and again shows that you are confident. Life is so much more exciting when you live in the moment rather than impose rules on what you do and when you do it.
It is our second date and we are at the bar. A bunch of meat heads keep whistling and paying your long legs loud compliments. How should I protect your honour?
See it for what it is and laugh it off. I like a man who is protective but I think it is a sign of weakness to have a fight. It’s best to ignore them and just be focused on what we are talking about.
We’ve only been seeing each other a couple of weeks but already it’s your birthday. What do I get you?
Something thoughtful, not necessarily expensive, just something that has been well thought through. I love anything to do with nature and would prefer a beautiful shell in a place of an expensive piece of jewellery I will never wear.
I carry a six-pack with me at all times. Sadly it’s in my bag rather than under my shirt. Is it turn off that I’m Seth Rogen than Lance Armstrong?
No, not at all. In fact, I prefer that you aren’t ripped. It is ultimately more natural and I am all for looking and feeling natural. I do think, however, you could do without the six-pack of beer!